Taking advantage of the controversy caused by Selena Gomez in the discussion about lupus, it’s important to me to bring forth the importance for lupus patients to learn to say NO.  When the body starts having physical or emotional symptoms, they are alarm signals that our immune system is acting up again.  We have to take ourselves into consideration when these red lights present themselves and learn to say no, no matter how important we feel the commitment we made could be.  Let’s take this pop star as an example.  If she can cancel a world tour with thousands of sold tickets because she isn’t feeling well, can’t we cancel dinner with friends for the same reason? Ofcourse we can.  Our health comes before any commitment we may have, even if it feels very important and unmissable at the time.